Reaching
adulthood without having had a single romantic relationship usually generates
many insecurities, especially in a society that constantly pressures people to
meet certain love standards. However, if you've ever felt bad about your lack
of luck in love, a recent survey conducted by a marriage agency in Japan has
just thrown up a rather peculiar ray of hope. It turns out that for the vast
majority of young Japanese women, men with no dating experience are
not only acceptable options, but have become the ideal candidates for
establishing a long-term marriage.
Fidelity
over love history
The study
collected the opinions of dozens of women in their twenties and thirties who
are actively looking for a stable partner. The results showed that almost
eighty percent of the participants would consider without hesitation a subject
who has never had a girlfriend. To put these figures to the test, the agency
presented them with a very clear hypothetical scenario: to choose between two
thirty-five-year-old men with exactly the same salary and physical appearance,
but with totally opposite pasts. In a resounding way, more than eighty-six
percent of women chose the candidate with zero romantic experience over the
subject who had a long history of conquests and numerous friends. The central
argument behind this decision is emotional tranquility, since they consider
that a man without constant contact with other women has a much lower risk of
committing infidelity.
The fear
of lack of initiative
As
encouraging as these numbers sound, not everything is a completely clear path
for hardcore singles. Although on paper they sound like the safest marriage
option, the survey also showed that the first impression they generate is not
always positive. A large portion of respondents admitted to feeling some
concern about meeting an adult with no love history, fearing that the subject
lacks the initiative necessary to lead the relationship or that they simply do
not know how to show empathy and affection. In the discussion forums, several
users pointed out that the fidelity theory sounds excellent, but in daily life,
a person who reaches his thirties without having developed basic social
skills could hide other types of quite complex personal problems.
At the end
of the day, these data expose an interesting contradiction in the modern love
market, where the lack of a romantic past is highly valued as a guarantee of
loyalty, but simultaneously raises suspicions about the individual's ability to
adapt socially. Knowing that respect and good communication are the pillars of
any serious commitment
